… when you’re perfect in every way
There comes a moment in every fabulously over‑achieving human’s life when they must pause, gaze lovingly into the mirror, and admit the obvious: humility is simply not their natural habitat. And honestly, who can blame us? When you’re strutting through life with the confidence of a drag queen on a freshly polished runway, modesty becomes less of a virtue and more of an optional accessory — like socks with sandals or straight men who say they “don’t watch reality TV”.
But here at The Hayhoe Perspective, we embrace the truth with a wink, a grin, and a cocktail that probably has too much citrus. So let’s talk about the art — no, the struggle — of being humble when you’re just so damn good at everything.
For starters, humility is wildly overrated. People say it’s noble, grounding, even spiritually enriching. But have you ever tried being fabulous? It’s exhausting in the best possible way. You’re constantly being asked for opinions, insights, selfies, and the occasional blessing. You can’t walk down the street without someone whispering, “Is that…?” Yes darling, it is. And no, you don’t need to thank me for existing, but I understand the impulse.
Of course, there are moments when humility tries to sneak in — usually when you’ve done something spectacularly ridiculous, like tripping over your own shoelaces or accidentally liking someone’s Instagram post from 2014. But even then, the universe seems to say, “Don’t worry, sweetheart. You’re still iconic.” And who are we to argue with the universe?
The truth is, being humble is hard when life keeps handing you reasons not to be. Maybe you’ve nailed a project, or taken a photo so stunning it could make a grown man weep, or delivered a radio segment so smooth it could be bottled and sold as luxury skincare. Maybe you’ve built a brand that’s equal parts cheeky, queer, cinematic, and unapologetically you. At some point, you just have to shrug and say, “Well… I tried.”
But here’s the twist: humility isn’t about shrinking. It’s about knowing exactly how fabulous you are and choosing to share that sparkle generously. It’s the difference between saying “I’m amazing” and saying “I’m amazing — and you can be too.” It’s confidence with compassion. Glamour with grace. A crown worn lightly, but never removed.
So yes, oh lord, it is hard to be humble… when you’re Brett Hayhoe. When you’re building worlds, telling stories, capturing moments, and sprinkling queer joy across the digital landscape like confetti at Mardi Gras. But maybe humility isn’t about dimming your light — maybe it’s about letting others shine beside you.
And if that’s the case, then darling… you’re doing just fine.